That’s it! After my last blog when I was feeling so sad, yet another hospital admission with his eyes and face the colour of spring daffodils.
I was hoping they would keep Faith in for the promised 2 week detox but he was out in 5 days. So I assumed it wouldn’t be long before he was drinking again
But then it was three weeks, and I was going on holiday for two weeks. In the past me going on holiday has seemed to be a trigger for him, I cannot remember the last time I went away without getting a desperate phone call or message.
This time he messaged but they were all positive. I worried when he didn’t reply to my messages, thinking the worst, but each time he proved me wrong.
And now suddenly, he’s somehow got to 6 weeks, his longest time sober other than when he has been in rehab.
I’m still holding my breath, I know he is different this time I’ve seen it coming, a gradual change in him, and I knew he wanted to do this, I just didn’t think he was strong enough
Oh you mother of little Faith, he is doing it, but I know its such early early days, and he’s getting support but not as much as I would like, it’s there, he just needs to reach out a little more.
But there is one humungus black cloud, one that is making his journey so much harder. His girlfriend is still drinking and still in denial. The hospital have told him he must tell her to get help for his sake, but she refuses and its of course causing arguments.
He called me last night, she was there, he wanted her to talk to me, to try and explain he needed her to do this, but she refused to talk to me. Not that it would have made any difference.
I try to explain to him that this is how alcoholics behave, he understands but it’s really the first time he’s seeing it from the other side.
I pray it helps him stay strong, but I am no fool or novice in this, I know a recovering alcoholic cannot be around others that drink and stay sober.
I know he is struggling, so I’m asking you guys that might read my blog that have walked in his shoes how best I can support him.
He’s trying so hard so climb this mountain.
That’s why I dare only whisper x
Update….. Before I posted this, I wanted to put on a pretty picture you know.
But, I didn’t have time, the whisper was heard.
He made 6 weeks, I am so very proud of him for doing that. He was faced with an impossible situation.
At least he openly told me. Now he’s not answering his phone x
I love you Faith no matter what x
As a mother of an alcoholic 
I am pleased to hear this and the best that I can say for you is to give him the space he needs to do the work but just be there for him with the love and kindness that you evidently have, when he needs it. You mention that he’s getting support, but not as much as YOU would like – just keep in mind that it’s different for everyone and it’s about what works best for him. That being said, support in some fashion by others who understand what he’s going through is so important, I do hope that he’s finding that, even if in small doses. Much love to you.
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I’m very much aware of the support I want point. My blog is just my way of putting down and hopefully letting go off my feelings. Thank you for your comment, it’s really hard watching and knowing they won’t make it if they don’t seek the help they need. He is dropping in and out of support, I know I can’t change that. Much love back.
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