Saturday, love it, no work!
My elderly parents often visit on a Saturday morning, its their little trip out. Faith called, “are they coming over? OK I will come round” Good news, he’s feeling well and wants to see his grandparents.
My partner was working in the garden on the summer-house and I was a little concerned as he is still recovering from a hip replacement op. I messaged Faith to ask if he could help if he was coming over…….. big mistake!
I had forgotten that he can’t deal with changes to plans or unexpected things happening.
Now he would have to change, he had made an effort to be smart for his grandparents, he didn’t know what to do, total panic. I wished I hadn’t suggested it, but I knew if he did help he would get just a little bit of self-worth.
in the end after many messages he walks in, smiles at his grandparents like all is wonderful with the world.
I’m pleased he got over his panic and made it over. I take my parents out and leave him to help with the summer-house roof repairs.
When we return he is eating lunch and smiling. For once he got over his fear of failure and did something constructive and got something back.
I drop him home and thank him. He comments that he indeed was needed and was happy to help.
This is what he needs everyday, maybe then he will start believing in himself. I certainly do.
As a mother of an alcoholic 